It’s not hate, although that is what it gets blamed on and what it is coming to. Rather the problem today is plain and simple rudeness. A problem I blame on the internet as the trigger (though we as humans still pull the trigger).
Since the internet has gone public and chat rooms and game rooms become all the rage there is no longer any accountability.
Nobody sees your face and there are nobody’s eyes that you have to look into. So what do people do? They become rude. Case in point. I like to play card games and this one site in particular, that I like to frequent.
After several hands of play nobody had made any comment of any kind. Not a Hello (Hi), not a Good Luck (gl), not even a smiley face (:-).
In an attempt to strike up some conversation (it IS social media, right?) I made a comment. “Awful quiet room” I stated.
The immediate response blew me away. This person could have remained quiet or even offered a short response like lol. That would have been nice. But No.
Instead this person responded with ‘STFU’. (surely everybody knows what THAT stands for). Seriously how rude was that, and what could have evoked such a callous remark? I was simply making an observation and in response I am knocked over the head with vulgarity. Dare I say full of acrimony (look it up) and hatefulness.
This has become more and more prevalent on line to the point of (at least) one site (that I know of) shutting down. Furthermore, I fear this is spilling over into the ‘real’ world (as opposed to virtual). Less people are willing to ‘lend a hand’ today than yesterday and I don’t think anybody has ever welcomed me to the neighborhood. (My Mother and I would often take a food basket to folks that moved into a house near ours). I have noticed more and more drivers (on the road) becoming less and less civil to one another. (When is the last time YOU stopped to help a young or elderly person change a flat tire?) Instead the norm in todays’ world is to cut people off, tailgate them, or even ‘flip’ someone off. And Heaven forbid the impacted driver should flash their lights or tap their horn in protest.
I’ve seen it go so far as to become Road Rage, against the protester! (ikr) So, you cut me off, I tap my horn, and then you slow down to some ridiculously speed for miles because I did? (or worse, slam on your brakes or tailgate me.) Seriously?
This has all come to pass in less than a single generations time. When I was a young man my Aunt would honk at people as we drove around town. They would then honk back. But because they KNEW each other or drove the same car. (Not out of anger or bitterness – aka Acrimony)
What ever happened to common courtesy, civility and even simple respect for one another? When did ‘bowing up’ and becoming aggressive become the norm?
My Mother often told me, “If you don’t have something nice to say then don’t say it at all.” My Father would postulate to me, “would you speak to your grandmother like that?”
I was taught to treat my elders and employers with Respect. To treat others as I would have them treat me. I was taught to use words like Sir, Ma’am, Please and Thank-You.
Yet todays generation EXPECTS and DEMANDS that things be given, and done for them. They demand instead of asking. They expect, without giving effort. I by no means had a ‘privileged’ life, other than to say I had a roof over my head (no matter how small), I had clothes on my back (no matter how few or how used) and I had food in my mouth (most of the time, and not always left-overs). I certainly didn’t have brand new (Designer) Clothes, the hottest and latest ($200) Sneakers or the latest version of a ($700) iPhone.
Maybe that’s the root of it all. I knew what it was like to do without. To be Hungry. To be Needy (as opposed to just wanting). I was expected to work for the things I wanted or needed. I was responsible for getting where I wanted to go (baseball games, school, work). It was known that I would have to work to cover my own fuel and insurance before a car was given to me (on my 21st birthday, no less). It was a beater too. A 10 year old (at least) Ford Pinto that my Mom had given me. And I was THRILLED to have it. Exploding gas tank and all (mine didn’t, but it was known that they could).
There is seriously something wrong with the world when a person can receive government aid (along with food stamps) and then suddenly afford a new cell phone, a new (luxury) car, new tattoos, piercings, and stylish clothes.
There is something SERIOUSLY wrong when people lose all sense of dialogue and instead reach for a weapon (of any kind). Maybe the problem is a lack of education and plain old simple laziness. (Mouths, People and Minds). Maybe the media and society (in whole) should start expecting more from the next generation. Maybe if the Managers (and Media) started communicating on a higher level (college, instead of 8th grade), the world would be a better place for it.
For example, my Grandmother once made a very profound and lasting impression on me. She enquired of me which was the smarter sounding: “People in glass houses shouldn’t throw rocks?” or “Homo-sapiens dwelling in transparent, fragile, domiciles should refrain from hurling geological specimens promiscuously?”
That made me think for a (few) minute(s) before I responded. (I literally replayed each word in my head trying to understand what she had just said) I was about 6-7 at the time. (It made me realize at an early age that education truly is power.)
There was a time when being a Gentleman or Lady stood for something. When proper educated conversation was expected, even frowned upon for not being exhibited. When engaging in ‘Fisticuffs’ was wrong. A time when Honor and Truth was the norm. A time when Society expected these things from one another. A time when ‘Intercourse’ didn’t have a sexual connotation. (Tip o’ the hat to ALL members of The Ancient and Honorable Order of Turtles out there. And of course, to Hugh P. McGowan and the 12 other bomber pilots in his squadron, that started it all.) If you don’t get it, ask your your (Great) Grandparents. (Assuming they are Honorably Men and Women of the highest morals and good character and who are never vulgar.”)
I think we (desperately) need to get back to THAT time. To a time of treating one another with Dignity. For believing in the Constitution, and ‘That All Men are Created Equal’. (forget that they massacred Indians, and owned slaves when it was written). We should all aspire to being better than our (Founding Fathers) parents, and embody the FACT, that ALL MEN ARE CREATED EQUAL. To aspire to a higher class and to dismiss Vulgarity in all it’s forms.
But then what do I know? I’m just a dumb S.O.B.’n Turtle.
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